Virginity? Let’s Talk All About It!

Virginity – a big deal in our society for centuries. There ain’t a better way to start a conversation on this topic. We’ve been taught that virginity is something sacred, something to be prized and protected at all costs. But is it really all that it’s cracked up to be? Let’s talk all about it.

First things first, the elephant in the room – virginity as a social construct. For ages, it is been treated like the ultimate prize to be won. Sometimes regarded as a measure of a woman’s worth, and in some cultures, it’s even seen as a matter of honour for a family. This pressure to remain a virgin until marriage has been a huge burden on many women.

But here’s the thing – virginity is a construct that has been created by society. It’s not a real, tangible thing. Anyone telling you otherwise has simply got it all wrong and needs a wake-up call. There’s no physical marker that proves whether someone is a virgin or not. The idea that a woman’s worth is tied to her virginity is archaic and not cool. A person’s worth is based on who they are as a whole, not on whether they’ve had sex or not.

Speaking of physical markers, let’s talk about the hymen. For centuries, the hymen has been seen as the ultimate proof of virginity. Many still believe that if a woman’s hymen is intact, she is a virgin.

Truth Bomb – the hymen is not a reliable indicator of virginity. The “seal todna” concept when people talk about the hymen as a seal to your vaginal opening is absolute rubbish because if it was a blocker then women wouldn’t even get their period unless the hymen is broken. What is it then? Hymen is a crescent-shaped tissue, which can be torn or stretched in a number of ways that have nothing to do with sex. Riding a bike, horseback riding, playing rigorous sports, high-intensity workouts or even inserting a tampon can cause the hymen to tear. Plus, some women are born without a hymen at all.

So, if virginity is a social construct and the hymen is a myth, then what’s the big deal? Why do we put so much emphasis on virginity? Well, there are a few reasons.

For one, there’s the idea that sex is something that should be saved for marriage. This belief is deeply ingrained in many people. But the truth is, not everyone wants to wait until marriage to have sex. And that’s okay! It’s important to make your own choices when it comes to your sexual life. Whether as an adult, you want to wait until marriage or not, it’s your decision.

Another reason that virginity is such a big deal is the notion that sex is something dirty or shameful and should not be spoken about or discussed publicly. But I cannot stress on this enough that sex is a natural, normal part of life. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s time to embrace your sexuality and let go of all the inhibitions and misconceptions that have been passed down in our society for so many years.

Finally, if you have to be mindful of things in your sexual life, then be concerned with the right things. For instance, make sure to always have consensual sex, practise safe sex, go for it only when you are ready and never ever compromise on your sexual hygiene. Like all firsts, having sex for the first time is special too – make sure you choose the right partner and never doubt the decisions you make. It’s your life, hang on to that driver’s seat. See you next time. Until then, take care of yourself!

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